Today's Topic: Complete Your Year From The Inside-Out
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.
William Arthur Ward
been a great pleasure and privilege to write this newsletter over
the past year. And when I hear from you that something I’ve
written has touched you or given you something to ponder, I am very
for your feed-back and the gift of your time and thoughts –
I love to hear from you!
you many wonderful moments of relaxation, fun and warm connections
this holiday season. I hope you take some time to count your blessings
and release any disappointments from the past year. If you’d
like some help to do so, read on.
Christmas preparations are over, I invite you to take time to savour,
celebrate and complete the past year. If your year has been a great
success, you are probably ready to kick back and celebrate. If your
year has held adversity or disappointments, you may not be feeling
wonderful as it ends. In either case, it can be very helpful to complete
the year past, before starting the new one.
does it mean to “complete” the year? Completion describes
an inner state of feeling at peace –- there is a sense of resolution,
closure and fulfillment. When we are complete with something, there
is no longer any emotional charge on it. We’re fine with the
way things are.
Completing the past year is a powerful way to "clean the slate"
before starting the creation and visioning of a new year. If we're
operating over top of unresolved feelings regarding the past, we feel
resistance to beginning something new. When we are complete with what
has gone before, it is very easy, spontaneous and natural to start
creating the future. We don’t have to work at it.
a three step process for reviewing and completing the year:
Review what transpired.
people can remember their year in vivid detail. For others it’s
If you want to refresh your memory on what actually happened over
the past year you can do one of the following:
Write a little narrative of what happened during the year, starting
• Review your journal for the year.
• Review your calendar/appointment book to remind yourself of
everything you did.
Reflect on your wins, disappointments and growth.
the following questions to do some written reflection:
• What were the major events/turning points in the past year?
• Do I
have any unmet goals or failed expectations for the year?
about all areas of your life: work, relationships, health, finances,
creativity, recreation, etc.) *This question is VERY important if
you’re feeling discouraged about not meeting your goals for
the year. Disappointments can eclipse any wins, so you will want
to clear these out first.
have been my wins and accomplishments this year? (Again, look into
all areas of your life, as above.
what ways have I grown this year?
were my most joyous moments?
do I want to release/let go of/ leave behind from the past year?
• Is there
anyone or anything it would help me to forgive? (including myself)
What do I want to give thanks for at this point in my life?
Share your reflections with someone supportive.
together with a trusted friend or partner and share your thoughts
and reflections on the year. Invite them to do the same. Sharing
our wins and our disappointments can help us to arrive at a place
of peace, gratitude and completion. Ready for the new!
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